The “Comparison Game” and Why It’s Unhealthy

So. I want to talk about comparison. More and more every day we’re stuck comparing our lives to everyone else in the world. And who is everyone? Honestly, we are stuck comparing ourselves to the ones closest to us. That would make sense, right? Our friends, our family members, co-workers, classmates, and even our “enemies” are all people we compare ourselves to. And why do we play this comparison game? I find myself second-guessing everything I do because my friend did the same exact thing another way. With comparison comes individuality. When we play this comparison game, we lose a few bits of our individual selves deeper and deeper into the game. So what is this game? Why do we play into it?

If we keep comparing ourselves to other beings, then we’ll forget who we truly are and what our purpose is in life.

Wow. TBH, I didn’t think I could go that deep. But I’m on my second cup of coffee and it’s almost 5 p.m. I’m struggling to keep my eyes open but still popped that quote out. Honestly, I can spout out Scripture and quotes to you all day long about how we shouldn’t compare our bodies, minds, and successes to other people. But I know the comparison game is an everyday thing. We play it even when we don’t even realize we’re playing. Our alarms go off in the morning, we grab our phones by first instinct (let’s be honest, we all grab our phones first thing in the morning) and check Instagram. Or Snapchat. Or Twitter. Or Facebook. Whatever social media you go-to, there’s always that one person you see and instantly want to crawl under a rock or cry under your covers. Wait, just me? Yeah, I see a few people and just want to cry because their life “seems” better than mine. They have pretty hair, a nice body, a fantastic job, or just got engaged. It’s not healthy (and especially not in the morning when I need to start my day).

I put a keyword in that last paragraph. Notice the word “seems” when I refer to someone’s profile on social media. Their life seems to be great in pictures, in posts, or in tweets. But just because their pictures are edited perfectly or they tweet inspiring, happy quotes doesn’t mean they’re happy 100 percent of the time. Social media is a powerful tool for inspiring other people or even just connecting with friends and family, but it’s also very unhealthy and casts self-doubt when it comes to the…dare I say it…comparison game.

That’s all I wanted to talk about social media. Yes, social media plays a big role in the comparison game, but we don’t always compare our lives online. Many times we catch ourselves comparing our lives and material possessions in the real world. Like, for instance, when our BFF gets her dream job and we want to be happy for her. Then jealousy rears its ugly head two seconds later and we’re caught questioning everything we did wrong (even though that’s not our dream job). We compare our successes. We compare how much $$$ we’re making, how many jobs offers one gets, or how fast one gets the job (right after graduation or two years after graduation). We’re comparing successes and how fast we’re getting on the right track to be successful — when we just need to take a deep breath and say “it’s all going to be okay.” It really is.

Just because your BFF got her dream job doesn’t mean you won’t get your dream job. Maybe you’ll get your dream job two years from now, five years from now, or maybe even tomorrow! With that, it’s important to be patient. God wants you to be patient.

And yes, this post is steering towards the love of God and putting your trust in our Creator.

“Jesus looked at them and said, with man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

GUYS. When you start putting your trust, your hope, your love in the Creator, you’ll feel ten times more amazing!! The love, the warmth, the gentle touch He can bring…it is ten billion times better than any spa day, coffee cup, or a tall glass of wine. God will always be there for you. He doesn’t care how much money you make, what sort of job you have, or how many Instagram followers you have. All he cares about is what’s in your heart. He cares about your heart and your ability to spread kindness. He doesn’t care about your past. He cares about YOU. He doesn’t compare you to that girl with 10 million Instagram followers. So why should you?

Let’s not compare each other, but rather support one another.

I am always afraid that I won’t ever “make it” in this world because I made too many mistakes. You know what I say to that? NOT TODAY, SATAN. Satan likes to worm his little way into my head, tell me I’m not pretty or smart or good enough based on my mistakes and sins. BUT you know what I do know? Thanks to God, I know all things are possible. why? Because God sent his only son down on Earth to die for us. Sent his son to die for us. Imma say it again: sent his son to die for us. He sent His only son to die on the cross so that we have a chance in the kingdom of Heaven.

“She has 12.5M Instagram followers meanwhile I’m lucky if I get 50 likes on one photo.”  

“OMG, she got a job right after graduation. I’m still trying to find a job…I don’t know if I ever will.” 

“They got married last year and they’re literally my age.” 

I hear it all. sweet, sweet child…for the love of God, stop this. Stop comparing yourself. If you need to, delete social media. I’m not going to say don’t go outside. When you catch yourself playing the comparison game, do this weird thing. Compare yourself. Compare your past self to your present self. Every day, you improve on something. Yesterday, I thought I couldn’t make it to the gas station running on empty. Today, I think I can. Okay, that might not be a big deal but it’s the little things. Yesterday, I didn’t think I could cook dinner for more than one person. Today, I can. Compare yourself to yourself if you have to play this comparison game. But once you start comparing yourself to others, just don’t. Once you start that game, you never stop.

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